Kindr Grindr takes new steps toward inclusivity in the LGBTQ community
Recently, Grindr has released a new campaign called “Kindr Grindr,” an online campaign to make the hook-up world within the app more inclusive. It includes a revision to the community guidelines that outlines a new zero-tolerance policy for any kind of discrimination or harassment as well as the release of promotional videos explaining the harm of discrimination.
Before getting into the debate about whether this is ultimately good or bad, whether it’s long overdue or far overrated, it’s important to recognize the two inherently powerful moves this kind of a campaign does for the larger LGBTQ community.
First, it raises awareness that we as a community are not homogenous. People will say the LGBTQ community in a single breath and think that, in that simple phrase, they’ve captured who we are and how we will act. However, while we are united under the same umbrella of gender and/or sexual minorities, under oppressive cis-norms and heteronormativity, we have so many different identities within the community, hence the alphabet soup.
We bring different identities to the table whether that be different genders or sexualities, different races and ethnicities, different body types and so on. Each person, with their bevy of different identities and experiences expresses things differently.
Secondly, it frees us from being perfect. A lot of the time, marginalized communities carry the burden of appearing perfect to outsiders so as not to affirm negative stereotypes already held against them. It’s not the run-of-the-mill defensiveness; it’s this idea that, if we’re to win equality and acceptance or to overturn the stereotypes against us, we have to show our best face to earn it.
However, this pressure inherently does the exact opposite; it limits us as a community by restricting our humanity. Our humanity is not perfect; we inherently have flaws.
We have racism in our community. We have transphobia and fat shaming. We have classism and ableism. Because at the core of it, the LGBTQ community is made up of people who, like everyone else, are affected by and sometimes perpetuate the issues of the society around them. And it’s hurting our community.
When we can escape this masquerade of being the model minority, we can not only start to deal with our issues, but we get to tell the world that despite these issues, we deserve equality based on nothing more than our humanity. Because ultimately, we shouldn’t have to earn acceptance based on how perfect we can appear to others. We deserve it solely based off being fellow people.
While we may not expect any huge social change from a mere dating app, Kindr Grindr’s effort is noble in its move to improve users’ experiences and address issues within the LGBTQ community.
I am Lilli Hime—English Writing and Rhetoric major and freelance writer at Hilltop Views. This is my senior year at St. Edward's University.
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Mike • Aug 23, 2019 at 10:37 pm
This is why i deleted and will not support grindr anymore. We gay men do not want anyone but gay men on our sex hookup apps or sites. It ruins our sexual moods seeing women or non gay men. I am sorry but we do not want our sex app being inclusive. This was our safe plave to find sex period none this dating and gender inclusive political correct bs! You all ruined the app for the gay men who needed a place with gay men only. We will not support the app at all til all non gay men are gone period. Our sex apps are not the place for this PC inclusivity. I’m not against any of these groups its just that it ruins the mood for most gay men. Heck tbh we didn’t want closeted or dl guys either tbh. We liked the app before it became gold digging corporatized unfriendly to gays seeking just sex. Whoever’s behind app has zero under6of how different gay culture is. And to trans people I strongly agree and support you need a safe trans friendly app. Thurst tried but never added a useful search tool system so failed. But i am sorry Grindr isn’t the right place for it